Stop Start
Give clear “stop and start” instructions.

Begin by stating what they need to stop doing. Follow it up with what they need to start doing.

Example:
“Stop making so much noise with your toy. Please play in the other room.”

Use a calm, emotionless voice. Remember, raised voices or high energy reactions can actually escalate the situation and create an unintended reward for a child.

A Few
Pointers

  • Use an even and calm tone.
  • Don’t accidentally make it an exciting moment.
  • Make it short and simple.
  • Don’t say it as a question. (Can you stop making so much noise?) Young children will think they have a choice.