Time-out takes {teamwork}

Getting ready 

Location/Rules

What if they refuse to come out of time-out?

Rehearsing

Timeout Tips

Time-out

Getting through {tough situations}

Misbehaviour outside the home

Identify

Difficult

Time for success

Getting through tough situations in 5 steps

5 Steps Heading

Step 1

Step 2

Step 3

Step 4

Step 5

Getting through tough situations

The Power of {attention}

When do kids get the least attention?

When do kids get the least attention?

When do kids get the most attention?

When do kids get the most attention?

What's the issue here?

What's next?

The Power of Attention

Mix up the type of rewards. Be unpredictable! {Show excitement!}

Catch your child behaving

Toolkit Reminder

Coming up next in episode 2 learn how to manage misbehavior at home. 

Deliver praise via a silent interpretive dance

It’s best to ignore them and wait for them to move out of home

You should lock yourself in your room and hide

It’s time to grab a drink and ride it out

If a child associates misbehavior with your attention they’re more likely to misbehave.

When kids are acting up, a high level of attention is best

It’s Sunday morning and all is quiet in the house. Help Raymond get to the bottom of what’s going on.

dad sips coffee and goes to ethan's room 

EP_1_HACK_OVERLAY - DO NOT REMOVE THIS - ask him to clean up/get back to my coffee/warm attention

dad asks ethan to clean up, he gets cranky (back to overlay)

dad gets back to coffee, ethan spills blocks followed by crashcourse

dad goes to sit on bed and give ethan attention, but hesitates

You're playing so nicely. How about cleaning up a bit?

You've been playing really nicely by yourself this morning, well done!

playing nicely, clean up? playing nicely, well done! you been good

Try Again

dad says ethan has been good but isn't specific enough

try again for not being specific with praise

ethan comes and chooses cereal for breakfast

specific praise, breakfast, physical affection

Next to

You’ve got them all

{Rewards} to remember

Intro

Our top reward tips can take some practice, but they really up your parenting game.

Using rewards {like a pro}

Reward tips list

content

whole family is calm and collected (conclusion)

WORKING AS A {TEAM} IS KEY

Take it from us, a strategy works best when the whole team’s in on the plan.

Including your team

Encouraging positive behavior

It's quiet, too quiet

Use rewards in any order you want. Mix it up and have fun with them but avoid being repetitive.

Rewards

Preparing Timeout

Coming up next in episode 3 learn how to manage high risk situations. 

Choose a location with toys to keep them quiet

Put yourself in time-out instead, hide till the mayhem passes

Try keeping your kids in time-out ‘til they turn 18

Slide their meals under the door 3 times a day

Ask your child repeatedly to do something, give up, drink or cry or both

Take a deep breath, yell to get your child’s attention, take them to time-out

Approach your child, give them stop-start instructions, time-out if needed

Ignore your child’s misbehaviour as long as you can, explode, put yourself in time-out

Misbehaviour, straight to time-out, child comes out when they’re ready

A family moment at the dinner table escalates. Bring peace to the home... or peas might fly!

dad cooking, daughter dances annoyingly on tablet

Ignore her/walk over to her/take away the device/ask her to stop 

Dad ignores loud child, child continues making noise 

Repeat your instruction/take away the device 

Reward her behavior (Even if you don't feel like it)

Dad rewarding child's good behaviour & dinner starting

Explain in detail why she needs to follow the rules

Tell her she’s not going to visit her friend

Giver her a quick smack/explain the rules/tell her she can't visit her friend/time for time-out

Don’t fall into the trap of talking too much, when children misbehave.

Dad telling child she can't visit her friend 

Taking away social events can be devastating to a child

Repeat your instructions/warn her about time-out/take her to time-out

Repeat instructions twice only before using a time-out

Warning (or threatening) to give time-out only heightens the situation.

Mis-timed affection can actually reinforce misbehaviour

Ask for an apology/Remind her why she was in time-out/Tell her she’s completed time-out

Dad reminds child why she was in time-out 

Now is not the time to revisit the problem behaviour

FINDING {BALANCE}

Keeping energy for both discipline and rewards

Wrap Up

Managing misbehavior at home

War and peas

Use these discipline steps in order for maximum effectiveness.

Discipline steps

Plan for a tough situation

That’s all the episodes done for now. Everything you’ve learned so far can be found in your parenting Toolkit. 

Find your partner, tell them it’s their turn, get back to what you were doing

Game plan, rehearse, explain the plan, coach as you go, review

Plan rewards and a practice run before hand

Leave it until right before the situation to explain.

Perform a dramatic re-enactment of what’s gone wrong in the past

Ask your child to listen up and keep quiet

Give your child plenty of notice and explain well ahead of time

State the rules positively (example: ‘play nicely’)

State the rules negatively so it’s clearer (Example: ‘don’t fight’)

Stick to being serious so your child knows it’s important

Demand Oscar winning performances from all involved

Discuss what went well, not so well and reward your child’s positive behavior.

A peaceful BBQ with friends takes a turn. See how Dave navigates and handles misbehavior outside the home.

dad has bad dream, then yells at kid chasing bird

Dad ignores Ollie and keen to catch-up with his friends

No, I haven’t tried any of the Family Man techniques yet

Summing it up

Plan the plan

Rehearse

Explain the plan

Coach as you go

Review

Managing high risk situations

Into the wild

Five steps for getting through tough situations. Remember planning ahead and timing are key.

Tough situations

Talk it out

Give clear “stop and start” instructions.

“Stop making so much noise with your toy. Please play in the other room.”

Stop start

Few Pointers

Stop Start

A tangible reward is an actual “thing” you can give to your child. It could be special privileges or something they can hold in their hands –like a toy. The idea is that it feels like real stuff –and kids sense it’s well-deserved. 

Some ideas

Tangible Rewards

Follow up and reinforce what went well and what needs to improve.

Content

Not everyone likes the idea of time-out – but it’s actually been proven to work, when used correctly.

Time out

Pointers

Another way?

Time-Out

Prepare your child for upcoming situations by rehearsing or practicing ahead of time.

First Practice run

List

Putting in practice

Prepare your child

Walk over to your child. Get down to their level to get their attention.

Approach

Can I ignore

For kids, quality time is a major love language.

Quality Time

Specific praise helps your child understand the exact behavior you want to see more of.

"You two are playing together so nicely, I'm so proud of you."

“Good job! You put your toys away the first time I asked.”

It's in the details

Specific Praise

Planning ahead for tough situations is the key to success.

Plan ahead

Game Plan

Hugs, kisses, cuddles. A pat on the back or high-five. Fist bumps and secret handshakes.

“Nice job! You’re coloring quietly all by yourself.”

Episode 1

It's quiet, too quiet

Encouraging positive behavior

It's quiet, too quiet

War and peas

Into the wild